I’m about ready to explode. Writing is probably the safest thing for me to do. Let’s discuss this calmly in the blogosphere and maybe I’ll return to becoming something a touch more sane.

I just returned from a long week of business travel. (I’ll explain my week’s joys of business travel here in another post.)

Ever since I’ve returned, my wife has been just rubbing me wrong. Every little thing seems to be an attempt to engage me in warfare.

I hate conflict, but I hate being fired upon, too.

Today, I removed myself from the room to simply hide in a corner and hope that I wouldn’t physically implode from all the crap that I wanted to spew, but knew it wouldn’t really help.

In my opinion, here’s the core of the problem:
We both feel we had hard weeks (certainly harder than the other had) and we both probably feel we should be able to unwind (while the other picks up any necessary slack).

It’s classic self-centeredness. We all suffer from it. It’s just harder to maintain happiness when you are “in love” as “love” is almost a direct opposite of self-centeredness.

It’s a struggle to see things from the point of view of others – especially when we’re wiped out.

And here’s another catch – even though I know all of this, it’s still hard to get myself out of it. The only thing that ever helps me, is if I can force myself to do things (nice things) for my spouse. But that’s hard when you’re being fired at.

Sometimes love’s tough. But I still think it’s the way.

I feel better already. Now let’s see if I can put that into action…

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